Roger Gary Cox

A devoted father, trusted friend, hardworking, and uniquely kindand gentle man graced the world with his presence, and left us with an overwhelming sense of sadness, as well as gratitude for the privilege of having known and loved him.

Roger Gary Cox passed away peacefully after a brief battle with pneumonia.

Roger was born in Port Chester, New York to Harold and Gladys Cox, and raised in Greenwich, Connecticut. His childhood was happy, filled with playing  baseball with his father, raising chickens on their backyard farm, playing games with his older brother, being read to and learning from his gentle mother, and watching or playing hockey, baseball, football, or golf with friends.

He enlisted in the Army before college and was stationed in Germany as the troop’s bookkeeper and paycheck disburser, making him popular among the guys.  His favorite army story was when a fellow army man’s gun accidentally went off just when he coincidentally bent down, and missed him by a hair.

Roger was a good student and a proud graduate of UCONN, majoring in mathematics, and often participating in shenanigans with his friends Jim, Charlie, and Fred.  

Loyalty was one of Roger’s many positive traits. For more than 30 years, he worked in technical and marketing managerial roles for National CSS, and the software company’s many derivatives.  He was beloved and respected by his colleagues, and often became their confidant and trusted advisor.  In his last working years, Roger moved on to work in retail at Raymour & Flanigan where his very friendly personality was a perfect fit for engaging with customers and coworkers.

Roger was an avid sports enthusiast, and had a favorite team for every season.  He was a fan of the Jets, Mets, Rangers, and especially UCONN’s men’s and women’s basketball teams.

Following in his father’s footsteps, Roger’s greatest source of happiness and pride was being a father to Kevin, Brian, and Kim.  He showed up for every soccer and baseball game, running competition, and Marching Band event.  He coached and chaperoned his sons’ teams and competitions at every possible opportunity, and was the epitome of good sportsmanship.

Roger was the quintessential volunteer.  He loved volunteering at St. Vincent’s SWIM Across the Sound to help raise money for cancer patients, and he was recognized as the SWIM Volunteer of the Year.  He also loved being a member of the Milford Rotary Club, where he fed the poor at soup kitchens and helped to raise money for a variety of causes. He also was a volunteer in the Lordship Community, and would help anyone and everyone he possibly could.  

He was a resilient man, and conquered his battle with cancer a couple of times. Dementia, however, took him on, but he was determined to enjoy life by staying active and enjoying nature, right to the end.

Friends and family are fortunate to have such a wonderful role model in Roger, and while he will be deeply missed, one only has to remember him to know how fortunate they are to have had him in their life.

He is predeceased by his parents, Harold and Gladys; his brother, Richard; and his daughter, Kimberly.  He is survived by his two sons, Kevin and Brian; Kevin’s fiancé, Madeline; and Brian’s wife, Nikki.  He is also survived by their mother and close friend, Deborah.

Friends may greet the family Saturday from 10 AM to 12 noon. There will be a prayer service at 12 noon in the funeral home.

In lieu of flowers, the family asks that donations be made in Roger’s honor to the American Cancer Society or theAlzheimer’s Association.